"Sounds like the terrible two's to me...". I have heard this phrase more times then I would like lately.
It was not long ago that "Time Out" was instituted in our household. Since that date, Autumn has become very familiar with the process, because she seems to visit "Time Out" so often. In the one and a half years that Autumn has been outside of the womb, she has figured out what she is and is not allowed to do. She knows the words "No" and "Don't touch that", I know this because I often hear her saying both to our dogs.
So when Autumn is doing something, grabbing for something, or climbing somewhere I would rather she not, I ask her to please stop. Sometimes she will stop after the first request, but more often then not I find myself asking and then asking again. Then comes the question, "Autumn, do you want to go to time out?" Now, I always laugh when I ask her this. I always thought it was funny when my mom asked me questions she already knew the answers to.
Autumn will always shake her head and say "No", she does not want to go to time out. This response usually happens while she continues whatever it is she is not supposed to be doing. "Autumn, if you do (insert bad behavior here) one more time you're going to time out." And the behavior continues.
So at this point, I have to put her in time out. I don't want her to get the impression that I am making empty threats. Not to mention learning that whole consequences to your actions thing. So off to time out she goes for one minute ( I read somewhere that a young child should stay in time out one minute for every year old they are). After that minute has passed, I go in and get her (my husband and I have agreed that whichever parent initiates the visit to time out is the one who does the rescuing , so as to avoid that Good Guy, Bad Guy thing).
I explain to Autumn the reason she was put in time out and we end the ordeal with a kiss.
Obviously, not listening is the reason for Autumn's frequent trips to time out. However, there is something else she has recently begun, while refusing to listen. After being asked to stop the first time, Autumn will turn around, look at me, smile, and continue doing whatever it is she is doing. Ugh, this kills me. All I can think is this cannot be happening already, she's only 18 months old!
I shared this story with my mother the other night. Her response? Pure joy and laughter. I wonder why?

Oh boy!! Lol. I wish I could tell you it gets better, but it does not. At least for me and my 2 year old. Sigh. Hang in there!!!
ReplyDeleteI'm in the same boat with my 2 year old son. Whatever you do, stay consistent!
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I'm in the same boat:( it's hard mama. Hoping it will get easier for both of us
ReplyDeleteOh Kim. Lol, all kids are wired the same. And yes my good friend SuperNanny Jo taught me that 1min for every year of their age and believe me my kids have seen time out. All I can say is START NOW lol otherwise they get older and play ya like a fiddle :)
ReplyDeleteHi there - it's a funny story only because I have teenagers now and can laugh. At the time it can be frustrating and scary. They love to push the limits and nipping it in the bud is the right approach. Hang in there mommy - your consistency is critical. I'm following from the Wednesday hop. Have a great week.
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lol, isn't it hard not to laugh/smile when she turns around and gives you that look? Your mom sounds a lot like my mom...
ReplyDeleteLogan's been using a "big boy cup" lately. The other day at dinner, we told him to be careful with it. He didn't like us telling him that, so he threw a little fit. THEN he said (all threatening-like, too!) "I'll turn it OOOOOver...." We were at my Mom's - and she LOVED this.
Oy, isn't disciplining toddlers so much fun? My just-turned-3 year old son is in a pushing the limits phase at the moment. It sounds like you're doing all the right things; just keep being consistent and Autumn will learn in time. Now, when he's pushing my buttons, I can say to my son, "Who always wins?" and he'll say, "Mommy." At which point I can tell him it's pointless to keep disobeying. :) I'm a new follower from the hop.
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Ha ha ha- so funny! I know exactly what you are going through! And I love that when you told your mom she just laughed- mine does the same thing!!! Thank you so much for linking up to Strut Your Stuff Saturday! We would love to have you come link up again tomorrow!
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ReplyDeleteone think that did help a little for me was...
instead of saying "don't run" I'd say "please walk"
the thought is they don't hear the don't just the action
does it work all the time.. of course not but any little thing helps right
Felt the same way as you when my Princess was 18 months. Now she is 3 and still has a hard time listening. Time Outs are frequent in our home too. I think 3 has been harder than 2 so far. She is so stubborn! One day I am sure that will be a good trait. But it is so hard to stay calm and collected when she is disobeying. I am trying ;)
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I think she would get along famously with my daughter C. C does her time in time out too. She is the same age and I am hoping by the time she is 2 it is all over. Hang in there!
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